“The reason most men crack is that we don’t accept that men are boys grown-up.”

– John Carter

“The mark of the immature man is that he wants to die nobly for a cause, while the mark of the mature man is that he wants to live humbly for one.” 

– J.D. Salinger

Food for thought - writings, visuals, stories and more.

What happens in a male circle – is a question I often get from those not yet having the experience (and many times women). 

My answer is usually: anything and everything but when I first saw this video, I came to realize how well this shows some patterns: 

  1. it takes time for someone to break the ice and show himself
  2. sharing makes men vulnerable and often they feel ashamed at first
  3. there is a lot of inspiration in one’s story and it helps others to join in
  4. what seems to be the most personal is the most general: it can be a relief
  5. looking at the other, as he is mirroring, often helps you define yourself better, to crystallize your own boundaries and cross them if you will
  6. even if you join the pack and immerse in the sense of commonness, you remain unique and will appreciate how important that is
  7. intimacy among men evolves in the most unexpected ways, you only need to trust the process and experience how much healing there is
  8. when you return, it  might seem like nothing has happened, and yet this is the essence of ordinary masculinity

This is why Mentorformen programs are appreciated.

Google’s “Jolly Good Fellow” talks about everyday compassion and happiness, and gives practical thoughts and even hints on this important matter. Compassion in business settings? Watch out for his examples, especially around the importance of inner development and personnel growth.

A story of a father to give his son a better life. A touching example of “everyday heroism”, dedication and human commitment – far beyond and far back.

Inspirational music and heartfelt lyrics in Hungarian – and probably just the tunes are amazing to listen, even without understanding the meaning of the lyrics.

In this short talk, Porter reflects on our polarized world, some of the manly behaviors, the so-called man box, and how we must reframe what we have been taught collectively as men. As one of his closing sentence goes: “My liberation as a man is tied to your liberation as a woman.”